Do you know someone who is quick to assume that the odds are stacked against them, who thinks their life won’t amount to much, who cling to the past like precious bracelets, who refuses to take action because they think it won’t count, who believe in fate to the detriment of their faith?
People like this suffer a mindset called “FATALISM”. In philosophy, fatalism is a doctrine that all events are predetermined so that man is powerless to alter his destiny. A psychologist will call it LEARNED HELPLESSNESS. This kind of mindset is “especially” evident when someone refuses to take action in the face of difficulty.
A fatalistic approach to life is one great habit of highly ineffective people. It’s mind numbing when we think we are helpless about the situations and circumstances of our lives. Like a mentor will say, “Never build a case against yourself”. This is exactly the stock in trade of the fatalist. He has learnt how to coach himself on why he is the wrong guy for the job, why he won’t make the team, why he is not good enough for this or that. He has an arsenal of reasons against himself but not one weapon in favour of his advancement.
How do we overcome fatalism or Learned helplessness?
1. We know the bible says “As a man thinketh in his heart so is he”. James Allen explains it further that “mind is the master weaver, both of the inner garment of character and the outer garment of circumstances.” You are where your thoughts have brought you. To change where you are, you must think new thoughts. Subscribe to a new thoughtware by reading good books that will inspire you (I can hear someone say that doesn’t work and I will respond like zig ziglar that “Of course motivation is not permanent. But
then, neither is bathing; but it is something
you should do on a regular basis.”). Chief among these books is your bible. The psalmist
said, “Unless your law had been my delight, I would then have perished in my affliction.” We don’t live by bread alone, we need words too.
2. Hang around positive and forward-looking people. Your association will definitely impact the quality of your life. Charlie Tremendous Jones said, “You’re the same today as you’ll be in five years except for the people you meet and the books you read.” Does your association arrange your pity party or design your victory strategy? Identify someone who is pursuing or living the kind of life you desire and identify with them in friendship or mentoring. Then watch the quality of your life change for the better.
I will keep you posted on more tips for overcoming fatalism.
I believe you can make it and rise far and above your current circumstances. It’s an obligation you owe yourself and all around you. Will you believe too?